G’day and welcome to blog #69. Exactly ten blog posts ago, in the oft-referenced blog #59, I gave a working definition for the term Shop your Wardrobe. I talked then about how you didn’t have to be a world-class thinker like Carl Jung to know that people come in all kinds of personality packages. And this is how nature intended us to be – different.
Knowing a bit about your personality is one useful key in creating a wardrobe that really works for you. Why and how is this so?
Express and inform. Repeat twice. Rinse well. Clothing both expresses something about who we are and informs us on who we are. Clothing shouldn’t define us – that limits us and gives our clothing too much power. But when we see clothing as a way to express some part of who we are, then clothing becomes fun, it becomes one way to let others know something about who we are. Not everything about who we are, note. Clothing can be as powerful as the words we use to express who we are.
Clothing can also inform. If you’ve ever put on a particular item of clothing and felt great, and yet another item of clothing makes you feel uncomfortable and ‘less than’, you’ll know what I mean. Knowing what makes you feel like your “best you” helps you make better choices in what you buy, and what you choose to wear each day. Make sense?
Thank you Meredith Brooks. Of course, there’s always the “multiple personalities” that most of us live with to consider, too. As Meredith Brooks sang in the now iconic ‘Bitch’ song, most women living outside of a cave these days have more than one role to fulfil. More hats than one to wear. Although hopefully less personalities than Sybil to befriend.
I personally can relate to the “sinner” and “saint” line of the ‘Bitch’ song chorus, although I’m not prepared to give details. On occasion, I’m sure my nearest and dearest could relate to the “I’m your hell” line, although I’m sure they mean that in the nicest possible way (you know, fiery).
So I get that whole I’m more than one me thing. By sharing the following categories I’m not suggesting that we fulfil only one of them. Some days I fulfil 1.26 of the following roles and other days I do each twice before lunch. Some days I mix ’em up so I’m a bit of everything, and other days I barely make it into one category (Some days I’m sure that I’m half a Sandwich).
You’re probably the same, right? Not one of us can be placed neatly into a box. And thank the reclining couch for that! How dull would it be if we were all the same?
Oh! Before you read on, read this first. The four categories below are metaphors, which means they’re not meant to be read literally. What this actually means is I made these categories up, and I had my tongue firmly in my cheek as I did it. So, just because you relate to The Suit doesn’t mean you actually wear a suit.
So, what are the four styles of dressing? Check out the image that accompanies this post, top left. I’ll wait here whilie you have a quick look at it. (dum de dum…. ) You can see a difference between each of those four styles, right? Each of the four styles represents one of the four styles I’ve described below. I’m sure you’ve already worked out which picture goes with which category, right?
Worth noting that each style has something fabulous to offer, and yet none of them is right for all occasions. Which is pretty darn neat, because we aren’t either. Right?
Here they are! Try these on for size:
The Suit. This style takes its cue from the structured garment of its name – before one word is even spoken, you know what you’re getting and it’s something you can depend on. Clothing tends to be tailored and classic with predictable shapes and appropriate lengths. There is not a lot of excess skin on show – buttons are for doing all the way up. Colours tend to be neutral and strong, which is also how they generally like their elected representatives. Confidence-inspiring patterns like stripes make an appearance alongside tailored pants and straight skirts in colours like navy, grey and black. With very little additional effort, you can be ready to attend a job interview or a funeral at a moments notice.
The Siren. This style takes its cues from the flashing, loud apparatus that sits atop emergency vehicles. You can’t miss it, even if you desperately want to. We’re meant to look, and once we start, it’s hard to look away. We see more skin than with our Suit style sisters, and there’s often a dramatic hue and unexpected drape that draws the eye. Cleavage, of both the breast and toe variety, is fair game. Patterns include anything eye catching, such as geometric and animal, although faux is best (no squares were hurt in the making of this geometric scarf!). With only a small adjustment to your perfect pout, you’ll be ready to …. well, do anything really.
The Subversive. This style is inconveniently erratic and takes its cues from nobody, thank you very much! Or perhaps more accurately, they take their cue from everybody. Mixing eras and styles with a triumph of individuality over conventional aesthetics, The Subversive style goes to extremes. No make-up or a face full of it. Patterns and colours are mixed together to create a volcanic ensemble that raises both the eyebrows and the curiosity of the observer. Orange teams up with turquoise, lime green with bubble gum pink, and that’s just the underwear. With a swipe of bright orange lipstick, you’ll be ready to join the cast and crew of the Cirque du Soleil.
The Sandwich. This style takes its cue from the casual culinary style that the sandwich epitomizes. The Sandwich style of dressing places comfort in the priority position. Colours soothe the eye and fabrics soothe the skin – white cotton, pale blue linen, grey soft wool. We may see a subtle pattern but we’re more likely to see block colours teamed together to create a just-crawled-into-this look that gives new meaning to the term laid back. Effect is kept to a minimum, which coincides with the amount of overt effort put into this relaxed look. At any point in time, The Sandwich style is ready to take a stroll or take a nap.
Ok, so what does all this mean? Apart from the fact that I’m either a very creative thinker or slightly deranged and a little bit dangerous. (by the way, I should mention that this entire post has taken me aaaages to write. I just hope it’s taken you nearly as long to read).
Repeat twice. Here’s how you can use this deliriously prepared information to help you in your quest to create a wardrobe that’s working harder than you are:
- dressing for your personality on any given day will help create a look that expresses something important about who you are. At least for that moment in time. This should not limit or define you in any constricted way. But if you want to impress a client with your creativity, then the navy blue suit teamed with a white shirt and black pumps is probably not going to do it (although you may calm them with your capability in such an ensemble). Right?
- dressing for your personality on any given day will support who you are and who you want to be. If you’ve been paying attention and tuning in, then you know how much clothing forms a continuous feedback loop with how you feel. Don’t dress like a Siren on a Sandwich day, not unless you want to feel out of kilter for 8 hours. Right?
- use these categories to have some fun and add some variety. If you’re going on a date (even with your husband of many years, or perhaps someone else’s husband of many years), try out the Siren and draw some attention to yourself! If you usually play it safe with The Suit (or the Sandwich, or a combo of the two – the Suited Sandwich), mix it up a bit and get Subversive. Try on different looks and see how they expand your definition of yourself! Clothing should be fun!
Dressing for the many yous that exist shouldn’t be a burden. If you have a ‘portfolio’ life that contains a bit of this, a smattering of that, and dose of the other, then embracing the many yous in how you dress may be one of life’s unexplored joys. Go out and have fun with it! Now, if you’ll excuse me, I must go and wind up that siren. I’ve got some noise to make. Right?
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